But what if they secretly hate me

some reminders for the anxious

  1. They’re nice and friendly whenever we interact, so they probably don’t secretly hate me.
  2. We’ve done some fun activities together and they had a good time, so they probably don’t secretly hate me.
  3. They’ve given me thoughtful gifts, which people don’t do for people they secretly hate.
  4. They’ve expressed interest in spending time together, which is not something they’d do if they secretly hated me.
  5. They were happy and excited to hear from me for the first time in a long time, which they wouldn’t be if they had secretly hated me back then.
  6. They accept my invitations to hang out, which people don’t do for people they secretly hate.
  7. They told me they like my art and my jokes, which they wouldn’t bother doing if they secretly hated me.
  8. There is nothing they could gain by pretending to be my friend while secretly hating me.
  9. Pretending to be someone’s friend while secretly hating them is not something a person I like would do, and I like them.
  10. People who haven’t met me yet couldn’t possibly secretly hate me because they don’t know much about me.
  11. When I let them down they tell me how they feel, which they wouldn’t do if they decided to secretly hate me instead.
  12. They want to get to know me better, which is not something they’d do if they already decided they hate me.